How do you create healthy sexual boundaries in both body and mind? What do you do when someone overstepped a bounary? How do you know when you body is saying "yes"? I'm joined my Conscious Sensuality teacher Robert Silber as we talk about and demonstrate how you can create healthy boundaries when it comes to getting it on! So many of clients have sexual histories where they did not give consent in a sexual situation. They were afraid to speak up, afraid to say no, and afraid of being too powerful. This episode is all about empowering yourself to speak your needs, desires and boundaries with power, compassion and confidence.
In addition to founding the Institute for Conscious Sensuality, Robert is on faculty of the International School of Temple Arts and has worked with many other sacred sexuality teachers. He is a licensed massage therapist giving bodywork that incorporates the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative. He also provides conscious sensuality coaching, trainings and mentoring via phone/email/in person.
He is a nature lover, master gardener, and was appointed by Robert Kennedy, Jr. as a Riverkeeper. He has worked in the fields of environmental activism, political organizing with Sierra Club, is a certified permaculture designer and co-founded an intentional community and environmental education center in Hawai’i.
He brought these two aspects together in creating the Kipuka Temple Community, where he provided a framework of sensual living involving beautiful spaces, permaculture gardens, sustainable living, spiritual cultivation, and perhaps most importantly - a community grounded in conscious communication and intimacy building.
From this location, Robert is traveling internationally to lead workshops and events. He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.
March 12th, 2013 By jaiya
Eat, F*&!, Howl - It's what every Lesbian Werewolf loves to do. Allison Moon and I get our "Werewolf On" as we talk about Erotic Fiction Writing, Romance Novels and why Lesbian Werewolves are so HOT! Are you turned on by reading erotic novels? What is it about erotic novels that are such a turn on? How do you safely F*$! like a Werewolf? Allison even gives lessons on biting! Find out more in today's episode and Howl with us!
About Allison Moon: Allison Moon is the author of the lesbian werewolf novel Lunatic Fringe, which she independently published in 2011. She simultaneously vlogged the process of turning her manuscript into a book at 90 Days of Self Publishing. Since publishing her debut novel, she’s become a passionate advocate for authors’ access to DIY publishing tools and the resulting democratization of literature and the creative process. Her publishing workshops include Self Publishing 101, Self Publishing as a Radical Act, and Practical Creativity. In 2011, Allison was named a Lambda Literary Emerging LGBT Authors Fellow and was a runner up for the Victoria Hudson Emerging Author Award.
In addition to writing, Allison is an accomplished sex educator who has taught her signature class How to Drive a Vulva (aka Girl Sex 101) across the country.
Book 2 of the Tales of the Pack Series, Hungry Ghost, releases April 9.
March 7th, 2013 By jaiya
Continuing my San Francisco journey I visit the Center for Sex and Culture where I have have the great honor of sitting down with Dr. Carol Queen and her partner Dr. Lawrence. What a treat as I learn more about the history of one of my greatest passions: sex education. And of course it wouldn't be the Sex With Jaiya show if we didn't do some kind of education about pleasure and connection - so Carol Queen and I dove into the topic of female ejaculation and the G-spot. There's always new information emmerging about human sexuality, which is one of the reasons why I love my job so much. If you are a sex geek like me you definitly want to check out this interview!
Meet Dr. Carol Queen
I am a writer, speaker, educator and activist with a doctorate in sexology. First as an organizer in the lesbian/gay community, where I helped found one of the first gay youth groups in the United States, and later in the emerging international bisexual community, as a sex worker and a practitioner of alternative sexualities, I typically teach and write from my own experience and that of my communities even as I reference academic thought on these subjects.
I write explicit fiction and memoir, essays, commentary, analysis, book and film/video reviews, reportage, and interviews. My work has been published in many periodicals and has been widely anthologized, and I have several books in print (see below). I publish a sex and relationship advice column which is available here and at the Good Vibrations Magazines at www.goodvibes.com. I publish a monthly opinion column, The Royal Treatment, in the Spectator Magazine [www.spectatormag.com], which also appears on Libido Magazine's website [www.libidomag.com], and in 1999 had a monthly column at Playboy Online. I am available for public readings and, as available, for freelance assignments.
I am a worker/owner at Good Vibrations, the women-owned, worker-owned sex toy and book emporium, where I direct Continuing Education for the staff.
In 1975 I helped found GAYouth (one of the first groups for underage Gays and Lesbians in the nation) in Eugene, Oregon. I served as director of the Gay and Lesbian student union at my university later in that decade and was on the steering committee of Eugene Citizens for Human Rights, founded to preserve gay rights which were under attack from right-wing forces. In 1988 I was director of education at the community-based AIDS education and support project in Eugene. My training (after graduating with a major in sociology, a Phi Beta Kappa, and a stint in graduate school) comes from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco's graduate school of sexology - and, of course, from the school of life.
For More On Carol Queen visit her website: www.carolqueen.com
February 2nd, 2013 By jaiya
Jamye and I always have fun sharing information about our favorite subject: sexual pleasure! In this episode we explore tips and techniques from Jamye's new book Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. She gets out her box of sex toys, and well, we get a little silly as we discuss vibes and other pleasure enhancers and what to do with them!
In addition to being a sex writer, author, blogger, video host, producer and director, Jamye Waxman, M.Ed., is a well-known and sought after educator and lecturer in the field of human sexuality and relationships. Jamye utilizes her Masters in Sex Education from Widener University and her recent SFSI certification to demystify female pleasure, arm the public with accurate information, and empower people with the ability to pursue fun and freedom in their sex lives.
January 23rd, 2013 By jaiya
Yep, I stripped off my clothes and grabbed a towel to take some time out for a sexy sauna. Its one of my favorite ways to take better care of myself and my sex life. While in San Francisco I took some time to visit Clearlight Saunas so that I could learn more about how infrared saunas can help you improve your sex life. From losing weight to improving erectile function I discovered that daily saunas may have a positive effect on one's love life. Join me and Dr. Raleigh Duncan as we share ways in which infrared saunas can boost libido, detox the body, and help you connect more deeply with your lover(s).
Sauna Works Clearlight Saunas are not just made with high quality and craftsmanship, but with the knowledge and experience brought by it's founder Dr. Raleigh Duncan. With many years of experience as a Doctor of Chiropractic, Dr. Duncans knowledge and expertise can be felt in every Clearlight Sauna. "I started out as a massage therapist", says Dr. Duncan, "and started using a Far Infrared Sauna for my clients. The first thing I noticed was how much more relaxed their muscles were after a brief stint inside the sauna - I could literally feel the difference." Soon his clients began reporting additional benefits from the therapy and wanted to buy their own units. A business was born, and Dr. Duncan says far infrared therapy is getting recognized in more and more niche areas of medicine. For more information about Clearlight Saunas CLICK HERE!
January 12th, 2013 By jaiya